One of the most confusing things I hear from clients is this: "I love my partner. I want connection. But the closer we get, the more I pull away. Why do I do this?” If that sounds familiar, you’re not alone—and you’re not broken. Addiction and intimacy often don’t play well together. In fact, many people caught in addiction—especially sex or porn addiction—have a love-hate relationship with closeness. They crave it deeply, but when it shows up, it feels threatening. Scar